thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

as title above, what are the bros thoughts of malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
is it worth the chase or still stick to local sg girls better.....?

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

Dated a few. No difference from local SG girls in my opinion. But maybe that's coz those i dated are all from big cities like KL and Penang.

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

I would suggest that character & compatibility being more important considerations than the nationality. If you wanna retire in Msia there is always the retiree visa. If the M’sian lady has spent many years in Sg there is really not much difference. Not easy to find a small town girl who is not corrupted by materialism unless you go over and spend some time there. Those who cross over usually tend towards the more ambitious type.

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

I see, i got to know mine she from johor

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

Ok. here are some details how I got to know her, typically from work.

We don't talk that much online like close friend type..

She has been here for almost I guess a year or two already due to border close she has to stay here no choice however she manage to find work here to extend her work pass.

Suddenly last month valentine's day she asked me out for a date, at the same time we celebrate both our birthday together as it's close to each other.

On the date itself, everything seems to be smooth and good, gave a pair of sneakers as a present spontaneously.
She looks happy and surprised from the gift. Most of the time she compliment about me and talks a lot of positive things straightforward,
keeping it real during the conversation and I just listen and contribute talk a bit here and there, so far no red flags such as (eg. bringing up her ex or something and other problems) to spoil the mood.

We hang out in the restaurant from early afternoon till halfway almost dinner time then she went to her relatives' house to bai nian,
so I waited for her as she say after that visit she has no plans, so she came back and find me we went to another bar to chill out,
till then late night she started to initiate deep heart-to-heart talks whereby she started open up to me she has a illness and I asked her what is it she said it's vaginal infection telling me she don't always bring this up suddenly as she does not want to look sympathetic from others (she's 24 btw)
To wrap up the night she even told me, she decide to hang out with me coz I'm worth of her time..... unlike any other guys she think twice beforehand.....

That night went well and she told me I can confide in her if anything arises and she indirectly planned another date telling me she wanna visit somewhere that can get out of sg temporary like pulau ubin so we can continue hang out and progress further...
Afterwards then I sent her home to the bus stop and we left.

Cut story short. After that date I felt good actually thinking it's the first time we have the same personality, able to click and our minds somewhat think alike wise,
we could possible develop this friendship further if both sides could make things work. And I couldn't stop thinking about it.
Pardon me, It's been awhile since I dated, I do not have a girlfriend before and plus the pandemic I didn't interact with a girl in such manner for a long time. Thus feeling this way.

Sounds too good to be true?

Unfortunately something came up along the way. Guess what? I happen to caught her selling the pair of sneakers I gave her as a present online.....

I felt cheated thinking all that the sweet talks she gave me during the date itself like it felted "she's the one" + we have been known for almost 10 years that kind of feeling..... Or is she just some girl with a glib tongue? I don't know...

Even though I do not expect anything in return from this since we barely know each other in real life more than a day,
thankfully I told myself this might be just telling me what kind of girl she is.
I texted her to see if she is honest about it like if shoes fits etc. She admitted that it does not suit her, said she is looking for something else to trade (she lied) where actually she is still selling it for money.....
Then awhile I moved on and accept the fact this just happened right in front of my eyes.

So bros/love experts out there I wanna ask, are malaysian girls really materialistic and like to emotionally manipulate people for their own gains?

From this episode, even though I've already somewhat know what kind of person she is from her behavior,
Sorry I know this might be a silly question. Should I just move on from that problem she has and continue hanging out with her?
As humans are not perfect and do make mistakes at times..... Just want to have some opinions.

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

Actually why do you objectify women? Don't you think it is very strange to say malaysian chinese girls or local girls? You mean they are all made from the same mould?

You treat all your friends differently because some are more trustworthy while others maybe just 'hi-bye' friends.

Ultimately, every girl is different lah, except for malaysian chinese girls they probably know how to speak bahasa malayu where as our local girls most likely don't.

Other than that you try to find 10 local girls who are exactly the same, see if it can be done. :D

Thanks bro for the detailed feedback, to finally confirm you somewhat mentioned the same thing as my close friend that I’ve confide in. She still tell me she don’t like to become 2nd priority and yet treat a guy like one. All long I’m just a backup plan..... damn nowadays girls are getting more tricky

Sorry if I sound like treating them as objects I was wondering if it’s their culture to be so good at talking this way (pls refer to my post above on what happened)

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

From my experience with Malaysian women... all of those I met wants money. Who doesn't? Right?

All of those i met, do not have intention to go far. If you know how to analyse their behaviour, you'll know what I mean.

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

Go for it. I find Malaysian ladies more down to earth. They are more family oriented and will put the family in higher priority when compared to Singaporean ladies. Nowhere as materialistic as some Singaporean ladies. Plus they are unlikely to want to retire in Malaysia (especially those coming from West Malaysia) if given a choice.

If you can, choose those Malaysian ladies who have PR status already. Then you are more assured that she is not with you for the ability to stay in Singapore.

Many Malaysian ladies are just renting a bedroom in Singapore. Some rent a bed space in those 2-3 person share a room type. Where got space to keep so many pairs of shoes? Plus she may not like your taste in sneakers. You don't know her long enough to know enough about her taste to buy her a pair of shoes she likes. If she had asked for a gift, then look at her differently. If the gift is really out of the blue you choose to give her, what should she do if she dislike it? Return to you?

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

Not much difference from Sg girls, up to each individual.

Agree, on the present part, of coz I gave out of the blue and I don’t expect her to return, however don’t you think it’s rude meh if you caught someone selling the stuff you gave as a present online? What do you think?

I guess my hunch is right, she is not a PR also just employee pass, even though still can hang out as friend but on my emotional side I might afraid feelings might develop if keep progressing and I will fall in deeper into that hole

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

What would be an acceptable response to you? Return to you? she give to someone else for free? the bottom line is still the same though, she does not want what you had given her

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I think what I mean to say is every girl is different in their own way. I met feisty malaysian gals and I met meek ones. Some are down to earth, some are materialistic.

It is same with China gals, or Indon gals, these are very big countries (yes even Malaysia), each part of the country have their own 'culture'?

My limited experience with gals from these places is that forget about where they are from and just look at the individual. Some Kampung girls may be a lot more materialistic than city ones.

The only similarities here is they are all here mostly (but not all) because they can make more money here than they can back home. Thus the way they act here and back home is totally different, I think how they acted back home is their true nature.

Ultimately, just focus on the girl, it is her traits that matters rather than where they are from.

This is the problem with most of us Singaporeans, because of the government's policies our conformity is actually very high (despite being people of different races) which is unique. We then to think of people from another country to be like whereas it is actually nothing further from the truth.