1. Those who don't get it.
2. Those who pay to get it.
3. Those who don't have to pay to get it.
So which one are you - 1, 2 or 3? Or which one do you want to be? Choose and work to get it la! No need to question and question, ad infinitum... yawnz. And stop searching for excuses and validation for underachieving if you dont get it. If you want something, then go and work for it. It's not going to fall from the tree.
If you want to pay to get that transactional rewards and power conquest, then work hard, earn more money, get bigger bonuses and then bait the girls.
If like me, you prefer the rewards of genuine interaction and mutually gratifying intimacies, without talk of money, then you still need to work for it - be well turned-out, be attractive, be confident, be funny, be an interesting person, be respectful, be charismatic, and hone your skills in the art of seduction. Essentially, turn the girl on. Because remember, the erogenous zone for us guys is the dick - whereas for the girl, it's her ears and brain.
So which one are you or want to be - 1, 2 or 3?
For many years now, I, as with other players here, have been using SLG as an easy and ready stable to "groom" vanilla MLs with very good success rate. Even APs and the most vanilla SYTs have given in to their own desires - be it money or wanton needs.
Just go get a massage and a handjob... seriously? Lol.