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UncleHasBeen · #**106** 26-05-2022, 10:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Anonyabc

U spoke my words at the end matey.

And grats for reaching 100 posts

Thanks dude!

This is a subject i hold close to heart.
I have been through so much shit, too many crashes and burned with OPP pussies before and after my marriage that i can easily contribute 500 posts alone

Anonyabc · #**107** 26-05-2022, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by UncleHasBeen

Thanks dude!

This is a subject i hold close to heart.
I have been through so much shit, too many crashes and burned with OPP pussies before and after my marriage that i can easily contribute 500 posts alone

I think the fact was that you actively reviewed what went right and wrong while for me I'm kind of in a rut I'm not exactly analyzing my steps the way I used to. That's how reality screws ppl I guess.

But you kind of inspired something, though I cannot be sure if I could keep up if I wanted, but well who knows?

UncleHasBeen · #**108** 26-05-2022, 11:14 PM

Got a few of such similar questions thought i shared it here for all.

Do you have any like core tips for us younger guys to actually get more girls?
Been on online dating but doesnt yield much results, maybe partly due to a hectic work schedule and balancing my studies at the same time.
But your post seem to say that basically put yourself in social situations, but how about the interaction and maybe if i may also ask.
Did you ever had to balance a hectic work life on top of your family life and sexual escapades?
Hows it like?

Young dudes, dont have to get more girls.
In retrospect, young dudes should spend as little time sleeping and more time on going out there.
Meet people through social gathering.
Be it organized activities or just plainly partying.
No shame in that.

Putting ourselves out there will yield two outcomes.
People around us in that social setting will be repel by our traits and behaviour.
And because of our traits and behaviour we might just draw the right people in.
Putting ourselves out there also polish up our inter-people skills.
Introverts? Then u need to decide how introvert u want to be and how is that affecting your love/sex life.
Take a pick. No two ways about this.

Work life, family life and sexual escapades, how to balance.
It has always been the case that my sexual escapades make my work life more bearable and help me to understand the needs of my wife from another perspective.
U see that flow there?
There is no balancing act. It is a closed loop circuit, for me

Luchofab · #**109** 27-05-2022, 12:37 AM

Lots of great advice good sir! Have my points

UncleHasBeen · #**110** 27-05-2022, 09:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Luchofab

Lots of great advice good sir! Have my points

Thanks man, welcome and looking forward to any sharing u have for us

Banaber · #**111** 27-05-2022, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by UncleHasBeen

U are more emotionally invested than u should on that one?
It happens bro, trust me. Especially with time.

And worse, at which stage of our life they came in.
All these could be a recipe for a blossomed and serious relationship out of a fling.

Either way, all things can be resolved if we all act rationally.

wow spot on! i hope i do act rationally.

UncleHasBeen · #**112** 27-05-2022, 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Banaber

wow spot on! i hope i do act rationally.

I wish u all the best for that bro.
I have a lot of crashes and burns, and i have no regret.
Not that i was desperate or thick-skinned.

My philosophy is i rather get rejected right at my face than not to try at all and later wonder about all the "what if".

dieth1234 · #**113** 28-05-2022, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by UncleHasBeen

I wish u all the best for that bro.
I have a lot of crashes and burns, and i have no regret.
Not that i was desperate or thick-skinned.

My philosophy is i rather get rejected right at my face than not to try at all and later wonder about all the "what if".

Well said, I up you. Thanks for advice

UncleHasBeen · #**114** 28-05-2022, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by dieth1234

Well said, I up you. Thanks for advice

Thanks man, looking forward to any sharing u have for us

Lemonjuice · #**115** 28-05-2022, 11:29 PM

@UncleHasBeen

I ended with one recently. Been together for two years. It ended over badly, with her blocking me

It's been months and I am still trying to got out of the rut.

Any similar experiences?

AmpedUp · #**116** 28-05-2022, 11:44 PM

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Originally Posted by UncleHasBeen

My philosophy is i rather get rejected right at my face than not to try at all and later wonder about all the "what if".

That is a very good philosophy

Banaber · #**117** 29-05-2022, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by UncleHasBeen

I wish u all the best for that bro.
I have a lot of crashes and burns, and i have no regret.
Not that i was desperate or thick-skinned.

My philosophy is i rather get rejected right at my face than not to try at all and later wonder about all the "what if".

having a holiday with her. hope to progress much further!

UncleHasBeen · #**118** 29-05-2022, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemonjuice

@UncleHasBeen

I ended with one recently. Been together for two years. It ended over badly, with her blocking me

It's been months and I am still trying to got out of the rut.

Any similar experiences?

@Lemonjuice

1. Ended badly with OPP, no for me.
Abruptly yes but i will always be the one in such case to contact them and ask why and then wish them all the best.
Never bad ending.

I had few of these.
Just so u know, i have been in this game for more than 20 years. Though i stopped in 2019.
The few shared the same story-line.

Fucked between 1-3 sessions then they called me to end it.
Reason was the same.
Felt they cant go on lying and cheating their husbands/BF like that.

For me, have pussy will stay.
So i always end such fling in an amicable way.
I told them i get it and i really do.
I rather we end things earlier than to drag on only to make things worse and public.
So, we call it quits.

More than 50% of those, contacted me after about 2-4 weeks.
Said just to meet up for drinks and dinner.
And these that i met up with, 100% of the time we fucked within 24 hours.

Then amazingly, within 1-2 months from there we ended things again.
So again, i do it amicably.
I was never so invested emotionally with them.
Same deal, have pussy will stay.

Then by clockwork, the second 'patch-up' is ALWAYS within a week from the break.
Fucking ALWAYS, one week.

Fuck again, then the story line started to get more complicated.
All of them will start to ask this.
Along the same line.
"Am i just a pleasure vessel to u"?
Every single of them of who patched up for the second time will ask me this within a week.

This is the line that i do not cross.
So i reminded them i am happily married and my 'mouth' is itchy so to speak.
I told them i am incapable of offering what they need right then and it was obviously not just pleasure.
They already wanted more and i cant and will not.
I take my time to explain to them that the fault was mine and that they are better without me in their life to fuck it up for them.
And that was how i ended those who patched back with me.

2. Getting out of the rut. Nope.
I learned at an early age, u fucked with an OPP's heart, u will get yourself into messy relationship.
But if u fucked an OPP with your HEART, u just fucked yourself ten times over.

WIBlack · #**119** 29-05-2022, 09:55 PM

Wow, UncleHasBeen, good thread to share your point of views with others. I learn more about OPPs looking for OPP now.

No offense guys, but if I have a FWB/FB & found out he has more pussies besides myself or his spouse, I guess I will end it with him without any reasons given.

Mostly it's because most women like me are still not so open minded yet or we just not experienced in this scene yet.

Damade · #**120** 29-05-2022, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemonjuice

@UncleHasBeen

I ended with one recently. Been together for two years. It ended over badly, with her blocking me

It's been months and I am still trying to got out of the rut.

Any similar experiences?

I had two experiences that ended badly. One turned out still fine, my fb after 17yrs.
I think it depends on your reasons for break off. But i agree with unclehasbeen. That 17yrs one was with my heart in. It ended with me waiting for her and cannot move on (still with had others but always yearning for her). Even wished she divorced qnd be with me. Somehow after i closed it, i could move on and she and i are good friends and still is my fb. 17yrs man.. so natural and i could always erect for her easily. Not even with my wife who is younger hehe.
So what unclehasbeen said is true, make sure no heart is put in. The onoy heart put in should be the love making session with all heart. Dont confuse heart with care or lust. Very different. They like to feel that they are cared for , respected and loved but not the heart involved love.
I had 3 which was bad but after talking over, we all agreed. They knew what i offer is a different feeling but not the heart in or longterm love. Once they saw that they will move on. Which i am fine because it is clear and that chapter has ended. Move to another chapter or be a better person and let her close the book and move on.